Saturday, April 20, 2019

FROM WHENCE WE CAME


(an excerpt from my memoir)       
       My father, having been an electrician, knew how to do interesting things that other fathers of the day in Medford  either did not know how to do or simply weren’t interested in doing. He mostly, but not entirely, learned his trade at the age of 18 from on-the-job training with his first boss. Among their projects, they wired many of the houses on Long Beach Island in the early days of tourism. Whenever we went to the beach, my dad would often say, “I wired that house over there, son.”
       Back in 1927 there was a famous boxing match between Gene Tunney and Jack Dempsey. My grandfather invited his friends to come over and listen to it via the radio that my father had set up by using a car battery and a set of earphones placed in a bowl as a speaker system. Apparently a lot of my grandfather’s friends came, but unfortunately, they didn’t get hear it to the end because the car battery went dead before the match was over. (Tunney won, by the way, some say because of a technicality. You can read about it as the match of the “long count”).  
       Another project that he worked on as a young man was wiring the movie theater for sound in Tuckerton, NJ. My mother was a waitress in a luncheonette across the street. My father would go there for lunch which is how they met. He did accuse her (kiddingly, I’m sure) of having her thumb in his soup. Apparently it didn’t turn him off, for which I, personally, am grateful.
       As I was growing up, he worked as an electrician at SKF Industries in Philadelphia, but he did small wiring jobs on the side on weekends. He often enlisted me as his helper and, as far as I know, I was okay at it—I learned just enough to be dangerous. At one point, I was thinking that I might follow in his footsteps, but the era of rock and roll and taking guitar lessons led me astray.
       One memory in particular stands out in my mind. I was in probably 7th grade when he decided to teach me how to make a crystal radio. Very exciting and fascinating even now! He first told me that you could do it using an oatmeal box. You would wrap bell wire around it, and every ten wraps you would make a loop. The loops would be various stations to tune in to with something called a “cat’s whisker.” I‘ve often been wanting to try to do that, just for fun.
       But we didn’t do it that way. He actually got a simple kit of sorts, complete with a dial and, of course, a crystal. We strung a wire from the upstairs back bedroom over to loft of the garage.  He brought a set of earphones home from work and I had my own radio which I listen to with a great sense of wonder (computer type technology was Flash Gordon/space age stuff). Many programs at that time were both on radio and TV, so that made for really fun listening.  
        If there is a lesson or point in my sharing this, it is, at least personally for me, how much it means to a child to have the significant adults in your life, not only provide you with the comforts of a home, but share the essence of their life experiences with you so that you’re given a good foundation in feeling important and loved.

Wednesday, April 17, 2019

WHAT IS TRUTH?



          Last week I watched a Ted Talk by Anne Lamott speaking about “12 Things I Learned from Life and Writing.” Excellent! I highly recommend it. She talks about what she considers to be some basic truths that she’s discovered about life now that she’s 61. It’s only 15 minutes long, so it would be easy to fit into a day’s schedule. You can find it on YouTube.

          The reason I bring that up is because, I, myself have been recently thinking about the subject of “truth” since there is a lot of versions of it in our world today, and, of course, there always has been. Human nature being what it is—filled with ego, fear, insecurity, pride, love of many kinds and dimensions, prejudice, a full dose of self-righteousness, and at least a dash of pretense—leads to confusion about what is real and what is made up about ourselves, about one another, and about life in general.

          I remember one day in grade school, the teacher was talking about the law of gravity, and so, to make us think, she asked, “Why is a feather light?” And one of my classmates raised his hand and enthusiastically called out, “Because it isn’t very heavy!” On one level, he was right, of course, but that didn’t address the truth for which the teacher was looking. It did, however, bring a huge uproar of laughter in the classroom. As silly as that story is, I think it is a simple illustration of the way the human mind unconsciously works to come up with easy answers to the complexities of life.
          Enter stage right, what, in our own mind we know for sure and what, also entering from stage right, we don’t know, but may be true. In the TedTalk I mentioned, Anne Lamott begins by saying “there’s so little truth in the popular culture, and it’s good to be sure of a few things.” I couldn’t agree more. The great preacher, Peter Marshall (not the game show host), once said that “we need to believe in something, lest we fall for anything.” There is some danger there, of course, in that just picking something willy-nilly to believe in for the sake of feeling secure and committed to a certain path, can lead to a very narrow-minded view of life.
     As for me thinking about truth, there is a biblical text from the season of Lent in the Gospel of John in which Jesus is standing before Pilate who is cross examining him, and after a brief dialogue he asks Jesus, “What is truth?” The question hangs in the air, and it would seem from the limited information that the scripture gives us, that there is no further discussion. That indicates for me that it is up to each of us to decide the answer.
          Anyway, I have taken it upon myself to come up with a list of 12 things of my own that I know for sure about life. If you’re interested, when  I’m finished, I’ll let you know what those are, but maybe it’s a good exercise for all of us—especially when we feel that we’re standing on shaky ground rather than on the holy ground of a good, rich, peaceful life we could be living in these days.
   

Monday, April 8, 2019

FRIENDS ON THE TRAIL


Cliffs of Ralph Stover State Park
            We went hiking after church yesterday at one of our favorite places—Ralph Stover State Park, just off of Route 32 in Pleasantville, PA. We’ve been doing walks throughout the winter, but this is our first actual hike for this spring. There will be many more to come hopefully.
          Ralph Stover has some wonderful overlooks and cliffs. In fact, the cliffs are very appealing to people who love repelling. There were some there yesterday. Just for the record, we weren’t part of them. We did, however, spend some time sitting on a few rocks taking in the view, meditating on the beauty and magnificence of the river and the valley and the distant hillsides. We hiked far enough to tire out our dog, Faye, who slept in the backseat all the way home.
          But here’s the thing that is true about being in the outdoors, especially when hiking—no matter what trail you’re on and wherever that trail is, you are suddenly a member of a very unique, warm and friendly community. Yesterday was no exception. There were families, young couples and older folks, some with dogs, some hiking alone, and a few on mountain bikes. The trail was busy with friendly people who were all celebrating the joy that goes beyond possessions and politics and nationalities and age and religion.
          As we passed people, there were brief, pleasant exchanges of words and smiles along the way, all in agreement that that was the place to be on such a day as that. The truth is that that has always been our experience when we’ve been in the great outdoors. People are drawn out of their hideaways of cars and houses and self-absorption, to a sanctuary in which there is no distinction between or among others on the trail.
          One little girl was afraid of Faye, and said that Faye was
going to eat her up. Her parents assured her that that wasn’t going to happen, and to prove it, Chris took a treat out of her pocket and asked the little girl if she would like to give it to Faye. With slight hesitation, she did and she got a huge smile on her face. All was well and a connection was made with a family who just a moment before were complete strangers. Then we each went on our way, probably to never meet again. But we were friends for the moment.
          It’s actually too bad that in the human family in general, indoors or outdoors, more of that spirit isn’t a reality. There are divisions and distinctions that are made among people that are unfortunately superficially created by egos and fear. I don’t think that that will ever change, but I just think that what’s missing is the realization that we are all on the same trail called “life,” and we are all in this thing together in a way that suggests the need for even just “brief, pleasant exchanges of words and smiles.”
          Just a thought.